Gosh, I don’t even know where to start with this one. I’ve been attempting to keep my mouth shut about this, you know, taking the high road, but sadly the voice that is being heard the most right now is the voice that shouts the loudest, and I can’t sit idly by and watch people get hurt and have their incomes in peril because of the impulsive actions of one power hungry person.
So, as you may all know, I’ve been dancing at The Satin Doll Gentlemen’s Club in Providence RI, oh since about roughly late June. At the time it was just one night a week, and then expanded to 3 nights (the Thursday-Saturday slot), with the rest of the nights of the week being mostly cisgendered female dancers with a sprinkling of TS girls.
Now I’m a bit hazy about what all happened before I came on board. It’s my understanding that the club owners wanted to have a niche market of a “transsexual erotic revue”. A few tgirls were hired to dance, and then another transwoman was hired to be a dancer and promoter. This person goes by the name of Kristy Pandora, who you may have heard a lot from in recent weeks in social media as she has “pulled the Satin TS Dolls from the Satin Doll Club”. As one of the dancers there, (which I guess makes me one of these “Satin TS Dolls”), I can tell you that isn’t quite the case. Were still doing it, just that we’re singing “Ding Dong, the Witch is Dead“!
There’s a lot more to this, so pick up a chair, grab some popcorn, and hold on!
When I was hired at the club, it came at a time when I was worried about the future of my website as my primary source of income. The email from Kristy asking me to join the revue could not have come at a better moment of my life. I am, and always will be eternally grateful to Kristy for giving me this opportunity.
Working at a strip club (which involves pole dancing, stripping and giving lap dances to fans) has stroked my ego, made me feel relevant, shown me that I have a lot of fans, and also been a fullfillment of a sexual fantasy of mine. It also validates my feminity in a way where I don’t have to resort to other sex work avenues.
Management of the club put it very well when they said that they wanted to recruit transwomen to work at the club as an alternative to other employment options so they can make decent money and go home with their dignity. It was probably the most eloquent thing I’ve heard a manager say, as he was very aware that the thing that makes us unique, is a fantasy we can sell to guys, and anyone in the trans porn industry knows we bank on the uniqueness of our bodies.
I am under no illusions as to what a strip club pretty much is. It’s a place where guys (and yes, even girls!) can go and see a girl they like on stage, put dollars in her garter, and then get to know her, and then pay her for a lap dance, and derive enjoyment from that.
Now Kristy may or may not have come up with the rather unimaginative name of “Satin TS Dolls” (which let’s be honest – is just sticking “TS” in between the words of the club name), but she secured the URL and the .com and all that. And she worked tirelessly on making the website look wonderful and professional, and yes, she is a force to be reckoned with. I wish her much luck in her future endeavors and would not rule out working with her, but right now I think she kind of power hungry, and maybe a hypocrite, putting her own petty grudges ahead of the well-being of about a dozen dancers who are still working at the Satin Doll after Kristy quit in a blaze of glory and workplace drama!
Things were going well for the Satin TS Dolls but then cracks started to appear. Now I admit that my job is to go in, make money and go home, and hopefully do it in a way that doesn’t take away from the other girls, or cause any stripper drama, because stripper drama is about as fun as cleaning all the toilets in Grand Central Station. Maybe I’m liked, maybe I’m disiked by my coworkers but I try to keep to myself and I’m not trying to turn this into a revolution.
So where did things start to go wrong? Well, the club itself was looking for communities to promote our nights, and they were open to appealing to ALL facets of the LBGT community to bring people in. Kristy, however was violently opposed (almost literally so) to this, and overstepped her authority in banning members of the other end of the trans community from attending. She seems to have some serious fueds going on with some of these people, quite a few of them dont even hve any idea who Kristy Pandora is!! I’m not sure how much of this is real and how much is in her head.
Which brings me to something that has been on my mind a lot, which is transphobia within the trans community. I could write a whole book just on that, but personally I’ve gotten to know people from across the wide and varied gender spectrum and after a while you get to accept people for what they are and who they are and leave it at that. Kristy, would however take hissy fits when members of the drag scene would come in for a drink because she didn’t want to be associated with those types. She has also said various things on social media that pretty much underline that viewpoint, but one of the reasons for pulling the revue from the club (when in fact she just pulled herself, the name and the website), is citing “safety concers” for the girls, which is really strange coming from her. Because she might have been the biggest violator of the things that the club did not want us to do, and the sorts of people we didnt want as patrons.
Kristy was doing a lot- she was also taking on responsibilities that were really the job of the club (scheduling and such), AND on top of that she also volunteered her house as lodging for many of the tgirls with no place to stay and transporting them everywhere. And on top of that she worked at work as dancer, not making that much money because to be honest, we don’t all have what it takes to be a stripper. So she was doing too much, making very little, and then saying that what she does is not about the money, and then complaining that she was overworked and broke, and trying to make herself a martyr over the whole thing. The last time I saw her at the club she was exasperated and drunk and was slurring her words about how she’s going to kill herself of die for this cause, and my reply was “oh dear, please don’t do that, it’s only a strip club, please don’t take this so seriously”. She’d show me some videos of her hanging from a noose as a fetish and saying that she is going to die this way, and once I saw that shit, I knew I was dealing with a person that was 12 eggs short of a dozen.
So things were chugging along at the club and then I went away for a week and the news came down that Kristy fired a few dancers for going to a nearby gay dance club on their nights off from the Satin Doll. Why? Because Kristy has some insane grudge against thus club, and the Providence scene or godknows what. Then a few days later the management (who really only has the power to hire and fire people) re-hired these dancers and Kristy left, throwing a tantrum and acting like a 4 year old saying in effect “I’m taking my ball and going home! If I can’t have this than no one can have this!”
And this isn’t even going into details about her own hypocracy of her lifestyle, which guess what? At this point, why the hell not, we all love a juicy scandal, right?
Many of Kristy’s friends and admirers were absolute creeps. I met one of these guys who went by the name ShoeMaster (which I have no qualms about exposing as a creep). He kept bugging me about where I lived and when I finally gave him a lap dance he kept trying to whip off my panties because he knew Kristy and felt he got special perks or was above the law because he was her ride to work or some abject bullshit that quite frankly strikes me as an abuse of power. Some of these people also stayed with Kristy at the same time she was lodging dancers and seemed to think it was a sexual free for all and I will leave it at that. And this is me actually biding my tongue about this because it’s not my place to name names of the dancers who if they want to come forward with accusations, will.
The dancers who slept at her house got to see her craziness first hand. That is assuming that they got any sleep! Because Kristy would go on for hours and hours about how she was going to tear down the Grooby empire, and how she was turning this into a political movement and go on and on and on and on about it, or she’d have a meltdown over not being able to find some piece of makeup. Every day she came in an hour or two late with the girls but she had diplomatic immunity because she was “in charge”. I’d come in relatively on time, and see “the boss” show up whever she wanted to, and she always seemed exasperated, angry and if it wasn’t one thing, it was always another thing causing drama.
I only got to see this craziness first hand once when a bunch of us went to IHOP and some random guy (one in a long line of guys she was seeing) and it was exasperating as well as the fact i didn’t get home from that craziness until 7 am, and I vowed to stay away from that drama forever. You know, the kind of people who exhaust you just by BEING around them. Yeah, that. If one tenth of what I am saying is true, that’s damming, but I have a feeling what little I know about is really the tip of the iceberg of a whole cycle of batshit insanity, that a lot of girls were putting up with because they had little choice.
At the club she would go on and on and on and on about her political views to the patrons who just came for a good time, not a lecture. So in a lot of ways, it’s great that she’s gone, because that workplace environment just got 1000x better. However, she continues to hurt us all with her actions and ambitions, because she has declared war and it really doeesn’t have to be this way. There is certainly a way that both sides can coexist and benefit while staying independent.
So she split with the club. And seems to be under the impression that she is taking us all with her to whatever venue she doesn’t have. She “owns” the Satin TS Dolls website, but she does not own us. She has some clout in the industry because she shouts the loudest and surrounds herself with people who support her and have no idea what is really going on.
Hey, I could approve a gazillion facebook “friends” and lament about how no one understands my hobby, and get an outpouring of support from people who have no idea that my hobby is actually microwaving live kittens. Which it isn’t, of course. But of course now someone thinks I do that, why? Because the internet is full of idiots who will believe anything!
I advised her that if she wants to make a clean break from the club, the first thing to do is to come up with a better name for her business endeavor. Because it’s only going to confuse people when they see “Satin Doll” in the name. Just because you steal the name of something and then get the .com, doesn’t alter the fact that you stole it. And if they think this is a good idea to cause brand confusion then their business accumen is to be seriously questioned. This is like Business 101 here folks. I know a thing or two about brand identity and intellectual property, having actually worked in one wing of the advertising industry.
And as to the idea of making a strip club into a policital movement? Knock yourself out. Whenever I hear someone say they want to start a labor union for strippers or sex workers, it really just makes me laugh and laugh and laugh. And laugh some more. Strippers and sex workers are fickle, they come and go, and most of them are trying to leave as small of a footprint as possible in the industry. Do you think they’re going to like paperwork or a paper trail? No! They are independent contractors in every sense of the word. Not that I’m against fighting for sex workers rights, but it’s damn hypocritical when the ones we are the most at risk of being abused by are the very ones that our self-apponted leader is bringing into the fucking club. I got fed up and I was glad to be away for a week because I saw that this person was imploding.
Anyway, the club is still going strong with a cast of TS dancers, and we are all working very hard to make it successful without her, so we can get through the long, cold winter with a little more cash in our pockets. And she in turn is trying to undermine this, and as a result US, in places like social media (she even referred to me as “money hungry”, and “grandma” while referring to another beautiful tgirl dancer as “Mister”), and sending hundreds of delusional threatening texts out to people and generally behaving like a 4 year old. One only has to read her facebook postings to see them bounce back and forth between being political and then advertising how much of a slut she was/is/wants to be. I really do think that Kristy just took on too many jobs that really she didn’t need to (or have the authority to), and maybe the stress was too much for her, and if it wasn’t for that, we’d still have this partnership intact. But she’s all trying to now “take this on the road” and I can’t see that happening when she had a hard time getting to work in the first place..
It will be interesting to see how this all pans out. Maybe I’m wrong about everything, but I lost faith in Kristy Pandora when she once posted on facebook how awesome one of the nights was, when I was indeed there and I saw in fact that this particular night was dead. I’m all for positive spin on things, but no grip on reality is another. I’m hoping this will have a peaceful resolution, and furthermore I hope that me shooting off my mouth doesn’t make things worse. But hey, I had to say my piece.
So come see us at the TS Revue at the Satin Doll in Providence! I’ll be there, as well as pretty much everyone else who was there!